Well it turns out that my bf will not be back for another 5-8 days and since my last punishment I haven't told him of any other offenses I have broke. There is a reason behind me not telling him it isn't that I am just keeping it from him I just feel like he has been so busy working that I shouldn't bother him with my errors instead I have been writing them down and the list is getting fairly long. (and I also hate the capsaicin cream)
My last punishment was last weekend and my next punishment will be next weekend when he returns home. I have a feeling he will not be too happy with the list I will have for him but hopefully he doesn't go to hard on me.
Has anyone else had to deal with something like this when their HOH is out of town for a long period of time? How did you handle it?
Monday, April 30, 2012
Sunday, April 29, 2012
the perfect husband
I found this article from the same site as my previous post
How to be a Good Husband?
Here are Eleven Qualities of a Good husband.
Here are Eleven Qualities of a Good husband.
1) Be Pleasant: Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.
2) Respect the Vows: Faithfulness or Loyalty is one of the prime qualities a wife wants in her man. Have a sense of honor and duty.Remember that when you got married you took the sacred vows. The honorable thing is to fulfill the duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Never expect your wife to contribute to the smooth operation of the household. Even in this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority for her. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about now and their needs must always come before your own.
3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to complement her. Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call to her even if you talk to her for only a minute or two. When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. She would appreciate even if you are not much of help because you are tried to help her. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views respectfully let know that you don’t agree with reasons.
4) Adaptability and Sensitivity : As years pass on you'll see that glowing woman you fell in love with years ago does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressures at home like needs of children, financial obligations etc. Allow her time to relax by taking some work off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife and looks to meet them. Do not let your feelings toward life's changes affect feelings toward your wife. An Ideal Man needs to be sensitive to the requirements of the partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work or help with housework and contribute to the expenses.
5)Show Respect: If you expect respect from others you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they have been spoken. Treat her with respect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Take in consideration her opinion when making important decisions of the family. If you are bringing your buddies home let her know in advance.
6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage: Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise their previous wives, girlfriends or mother in front of their wives. Avoid judging every action or opinion your wife has and understand that she is different from you. Her experiences and likings may be different from you too. Comparing her or making her feel that she does not measure up only would ruin your marriage.
7) Communication: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your wife then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life. Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This would encourage her to open up with you and don’t keep secrets. Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor.Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding her of her faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper.
8). Love and Affection: Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Gift your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and would be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to your wife.
9) Offer Protection: A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady when she is with you.
10) Give her Space: As a Husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life. She also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if he wants to go out and hang out with her friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or want to spend some time with her parents.
11) Keep her happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Good Sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off. Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child. Do not bring porn into a relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level with weird sex positions.
In short, if you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior. If you are an ideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a forever blessing.
Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.
Here are Eleven Qualities of a Good husband.
1) Be Pleasant: Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.
2) Respect the Vows: Faithfulness or Loyalty is one of the prime qualities a wife wants in her man. Have a sense of honor and duty.Remember that when you got married you took the sacred vows. The honorable thing is to fulfill the duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Never expect your wife to contribute to the smooth operation of the household. Even in this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority for her. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about now and their needs must always come before your own.
3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to complement her. Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call to her even if you talk to her for only a minute or two. When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. She would appreciate even if you are not much of help because you are tried to help her. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views respectfully let know that you don’t agree with reasons.
4) Adaptability and Sensitivity : As years pass on you'll see that glowing woman you fell in love with years ago does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressures at home like needs of children, financial obligations etc. Allow her time to relax by taking some work off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife and looks to meet them. Do not let your feelings toward life's changes affect feelings toward your wife. An Ideal Man needs to be sensitive to the requirements of the partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work or help with housework and contribute to the expenses.
5)Show Respect: If you expect respect from others you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they have been spoken. Treat her with respect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Take in consideration her opinion when making important decisions of the family. If you are bringing your buddies home let her know in advance.
6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage: Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise their previous wives, girlfriends or mother in front of their wives. Avoid judging every action or opinion your wife has and understand that she is different from you. Her experiences and likings may be different from you too. Comparing her or making her feel that she does not measure up only would ruin your marriage.
7) Communication: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your wife then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life. Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This would encourage her to open up with you and don’t keep secrets. Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor.Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding her of her faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper.
8). Love and Affection: Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Gift your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunch of her favorite flowers or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing your likes on her and show her that you care and would be always there for her. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to your wife.
9) Offer Protection: A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady when she is with you.
10) Give her Space: As a Husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life. She also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if he wants to go out and hang out with her friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or want to spend some time with her parents.
11) Keep her happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Good Sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationship and if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off. Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child. Do not bring porn into a relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level with weird sex positions.
In short, if you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior. If you are an ideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a forever blessing.
Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.
the perfect wife
I found this article on the internet and felt like or was a really good thing to share this is the type of wife i aspire to be some day.
1) Be pleasant: It is said that 'we need to treat others the way we want ourselves to be treated’. Never be rude to our husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one. If you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.
2) Treat your Husband with Respect: If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect too. Haven’t we all heard ‘Give respect and take respect’? Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.
3) Communicate: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Do not hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Be honest to him. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding him of his faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper. If you do he may actually start to fall out of love with you and you could lose him all together.
4) Be Supportive: A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is a nurturer and an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him or belittle him especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.
5) Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way ask him nicely. Many wives think that is the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.
6) Give him his space: As a wife you need to understand that your husband has a life other than you also. He has his family, friends and colleagues who too are part of his life. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.
7) Keep him happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. When you please your man, he would be obliged to please you too. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he may go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man! According to research, the major reason why men cheat is mostly physical whereas for a woman it is emotional.
8) Plan Surprises: Men like surprises too. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.
9) Express your love and appreciation often: Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you. Don't withhold affection.
10) Honesty, Loyalty and Dedication: A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept in all conditions.
11) Prepare yourself: A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance and every day. Include exercises or yoga in your daily routine. Be hygienic. Some woman feel that once they are married why they should dress up or take care of their appearance. A man likes his wife to smell good. If you are unhealthy or not presentable your man may cheat you behind your back.
12) Prepare the House: Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house. Apart from this be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.
Do you want a Good Husband who would love you and cherish you? Then treat him exactly the way you want him to treat you. If you want your Husband to treat you like a Queen, you should treat him like a King. In this modern world where most Wives also work the above advice may not be fully practical. But at least some efforts can be put to put these tips into practice. If you are working, you may keep a maid for doing the household chores of cooking, cleaning etc.
I am sure any man would be happy to get a good wife with all the above said qualities. Anyways, I have some advice for Men who were overjoyed seeing this Hub. Marriage is a two sided relationship and you have to play your role too in a perfect manner if you expect your wife to be an ideal one. Have I left anything? Please feel free to add through comments.
1) Be pleasant: It is said that 'we need to treat others the way we want ourselves to be treated’. Never be rude to our husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one. If you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.
2) Treat your Husband with Respect: If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect too. Haven’t we all heard ‘Give respect and take respect’? Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.
3) Communicate: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Do not hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Be honest to him. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding him of his faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper. If you do he may actually start to fall out of love with you and you could lose him all together.
4) Be Supportive: A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is a nurturer and an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him or belittle him especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.
5) Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way ask him nicely. Many wives think that is the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.
6) Give him his space: As a wife you need to understand that your husband has a life other than you also. He has his family, friends and colleagues who too are part of his life. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.
7) Keep him happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. When you please your man, he would be obliged to please you too. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he may go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man! According to research, the major reason why men cheat is mostly physical whereas for a woman it is emotional.
8) Plan Surprises: Men like surprises too. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.
9) Express your love and appreciation often: Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you. Don't withhold affection.
10) Honesty, Loyalty and Dedication: A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept in all conditions.
11) Prepare yourself: A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance and every day. Include exercises or yoga in your daily routine. Be hygienic. Some woman feel that once they are married why they should dress up or take care of their appearance. A man likes his wife to smell good. If you are unhealthy or not presentable your man may cheat you behind your back.
12) Prepare the House: Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house. Apart from this be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.
Do you want a Good Husband who would love you and cherish you? Then treat him exactly the way you want him to treat you. If you want your Husband to treat you like a Queen, you should treat him like a King. In this modern world where most Wives also work the above advice may not be fully practical. But at least some efforts can be put to put these tips into practice. If you are working, you may keep a maid for doing the household chores of cooking, cleaning etc.
I am sure any man would be happy to get a good wife with all the above said qualities. Anyways, I have some advice for Men who were overjoyed seeing this Hub. Marriage is a two sided relationship and you have to play your role too in a perfect manner if you expect your wife to be an ideal one. Have I left anything? Please feel free to add through comments.
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
anticipation
So next week I will be receiving my first actual adult spanking and I am very excited and nervous at the same time. There are so many questions going through my head it is ridiculous.
what will it feel like?
will I be able to stay in position?
will he be able to actually spank me hard enough or will i feel like i was let down in the end and still in need of more punishment?
how many swats will i receive?
will he use just his hand or the spoon or brush as well? Or even a belt?
will i be told to stand in the corner and if so for how long?
what is going to happen after the spanking is over? Will he hold me and remind me how much he loves me? Will we have amazing sex?
how will i feel the next day?
will this first spanking be a constant reminder to follow our rules so I am not spanked again anytime soon?
Will I cry? Will I beg him to stop?
After it is all done and over with will i feel i have still made the correct decision to begin this type of lifestyle?
Will his spanking be much harder than I expected? Will he know when enough is enough?
What will the lecture before hand be like?
Will I be able to submit to him like I desperately want and need to?
I will have all of these questions answered in less than a week I am counting down the days. In my head I almost feel as if i want to have all of this planned out so that I can have some sort of control, or is it just that I am curious?
Well I must finish my chores, goodnight for now!
what will it feel like?
will I be able to stay in position?
will he be able to actually spank me hard enough or will i feel like i was let down in the end and still in need of more punishment?
how many swats will i receive?
will he use just his hand or the spoon or brush as well? Or even a belt?
will i be told to stand in the corner and if so for how long?
what is going to happen after the spanking is over? Will he hold me and remind me how much he loves me? Will we have amazing sex?
how will i feel the next day?
will this first spanking be a constant reminder to follow our rules so I am not spanked again anytime soon?
Will I cry? Will I beg him to stop?
After it is all done and over with will i feel i have still made the correct decision to begin this type of lifestyle?
Will his spanking be much harder than I expected? Will he know when enough is enough?
What will the lecture before hand be like?
Will I be able to submit to him like I desperately want and need to?
I will have all of these questions answered in less than a week I am counting down the days. In my head I almost feel as if i want to have all of this planned out so that I can have some sort of control, or is it just that I am curious?
Well I must finish my chores, goodnight for now!
Sunday, April 15, 2012
capsaicin cream
So after many applications of the Capsaicin Cream for silent spankings I have really grown to not like that stuff... In my head I remember things by thinking to myself if you misplace blah, or leave the lights on, or break any rules you will get the cream. It has really started making me think twice about making mistakes... As I am writing this I have the cream on my bottom and it is burning like normal... If only I could lose the cream and not be punished for loosing it.hmmm :(
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
punishable offenses
Gy1. Attitude
--Unwarranted negative attitude
--being bratty
--being argumentative (we can discuss things in a respectful manor)
--being stubborn
--doubting you
2. not following through with tasks
--saying i am going to do something and don't
3. phone while driving
4. procrastination
--I should not be rushing around to finish tasks
5. lying
6. not doing chores
--there should be less than a load of laundry at the end of every day
--there should be no dishes in the sink
--the house should be orderly and organized daily everything should be in its place
--walk the dog daily
--make at least one meal
7. sleeping all day
--I should be on a sleep schedule and stick to it so we have time together
8. purposly being annoying
9. pestering
10. during spanking punishable offenses
--putting hand behind me
--moving out of position (can be dangerous)
--back talking
--trying to negotiate
--fighting against you any time during the punishment process
--being defiant after discipline is over
11. not keeping myself presentable
12. not taking care of myself
--not sleeping enough hours
--constantly talking negatively
13. buying uneeded things
14. any other offense you see fit
15. leaving lights on
16. leaving stuff on your desk
17. forgetfulness
18. leaving the car a mess
19. writing something in my blog you wouldnt approve of
20. not wrapping sanitary items
21. being late
22. misplacing keys and pocket book
23. hanging up on each other
24. no ignoring each other
25. dont commit to doing something before talking about it
26. Being unhealthy
27.
--Unwarranted negative attitude
--being bratty
--being argumentative (we can discuss things in a respectful manor)
--being stubborn
--doubting you
2. not following through with tasks
--saying i am going to do something and don't
3. phone while driving
4. procrastination
--I should not be rushing around to finish tasks
5. lying
6. not doing chores
--there should be less than a load of laundry at the end of every day
--there should be no dishes in the sink
--the house should be orderly and organized daily everything should be in its place
--walk the dog daily
--make at least one meal
7. sleeping all day
--I should be on a sleep schedule and stick to it so we have time together
8. purposly being annoying
9. pestering
10. during spanking punishable offenses
--putting hand behind me
--moving out of position (can be dangerous)
--back talking
--trying to negotiate
--fighting against you any time during the punishment process
--being defiant after discipline is over
11. not keeping myself presentable
12. not taking care of myself
--not sleeping enough hours
--constantly talking negatively
13. buying uneeded things
14. any other offense you see fit
15. leaving lights on
16. leaving stuff on your desk
17. forgetfulness
18. leaving the car a mess
19. writing something in my blog you wouldnt approve of
20. not wrapping sanitary items
21. being late
22. misplacing keys and pocket book
23. hanging up on each other
24. no ignoring each other
25. dont commit to doing something before talking about it
26. Being unhealthy
27.
my first punishiment
After deciding we would be practicing a dd lifestyle we started agreeing on what behaviors were and were not acceptable http://myjourneytodomesticdiscipline.blogspot.com/2012/04/punishable-offenses.html . We also decided that if I broke one of our rules without my bf knowing I was to tell him immediately and if he he found out i had done something and failed to tell him the punishment would be worse because that is considered lying.
One of our biggest problems has been leaving the lights on and my bf has told me countless times that this bothers him so it isn't like this was a new rule. Well literally the day of writing down a list of rules to be followed I broke this huge rule that was even put in capital letters because it has been such a huge issue for so long. I went to the dog park with our dog and came home to find out I left not 1 but 2 lights on... I sat down dreading the fact that I had to tell him of the mistake I had made because we had just got done discussing our rules. So finally i sent him a text because I didn't want him to be interrupted while working. I waited for awhile and he hadn't texted me back so I hopped into the bath. Just my luck just as I was getting cozy in the tub he texts me back stating this would require some sort of discipline. My stomach dropped, i tried to get out of it (this was me testing him how committed he was to our new dd relationship) but to my disappointment (and relief) he wasn't backing down and stated there was nothing I could do to get out of this. I was told to get out of the tub and without getting dressed or drying off my hiney to find 3 things around the house that could be used to give myself a spanking and i had to send him a picture so he could decide what one would be used. I went around the house as quickly as possible and found a spatula, a chuck it (a plastic thing used to throw tennis balls for our dog), and a belt. He told me to use the spatula but only after I had got back into the tub and took time to think about what I had done and finished washing, after I was done I was to spank each cheek 15 times and send him a picture so he could decide if my punishment was thorough enough. He added at the end of his text that I better do it correctly or else. I was also not allowed to dry off my backside so that this punishment would sting even worse.
I finally pulled myself out of the tub, by this time the water was cold. I went into the living room and layed down on my stomach grabbing the spatula in my right hand I did as he asked. to my surprise the spanking stung much worse than expected so when my 15 swats per cheek were done I was happy. I took a picture and deep down I knew i hadn't spanked myself hard enough to get the effect he desired but I send him the pic anyways... bad idea... he was very disappointing in me and told me to do it again and to do it right. This time I swatted harder and each cheek got 30 swats instead of 15. I resent him a picture and not very surprising to me i still hadn't done the job he expected. He let me know he was disappointing in me and I would be receiving a worse discipline. I begged him not to give me a worse discipline and if given another chance I would give myself a proper spanking. Before he could text me back I started spanking myself again this time much harder with 50 swats each cheek and in my head all I was thinking about was how much harder these swats would be if he was administering them. By this time my bottom was completely red.. I went back to my phone and found he had told me it was obvious I was unable to fulfill this punishment and would have a different one instead. I sent him the new pic of my bottom in desperation hoping he would change his mind but he didn't. He was happy I had finally given myself the proper discipline but he couldn't let me get away with this behavior. I hated that I had dissapointed him in the first place, that was almost a punishment in itself.
Second part of my punishment:
I was required to write lines 100 to be exact and let me tell you 100 lines of "I will not leave the lights on" takes awhile.
I apologized afterwards and he reiterated the reason for his discipline. Everything was over and the air was clear he told me he loved me and i felt even closer to him.
One of our biggest problems has been leaving the lights on and my bf has told me countless times that this bothers him so it isn't like this was a new rule. Well literally the day of writing down a list of rules to be followed I broke this huge rule that was even put in capital letters because it has been such a huge issue for so long. I went to the dog park with our dog and came home to find out I left not 1 but 2 lights on... I sat down dreading the fact that I had to tell him of the mistake I had made because we had just got done discussing our rules. So finally i sent him a text because I didn't want him to be interrupted while working. I waited for awhile and he hadn't texted me back so I hopped into the bath. Just my luck just as I was getting cozy in the tub he texts me back stating this would require some sort of discipline. My stomach dropped, i tried to get out of it (this was me testing him how committed he was to our new dd relationship) but to my disappointment (and relief) he wasn't backing down and stated there was nothing I could do to get out of this. I was told to get out of the tub and without getting dressed or drying off my hiney to find 3 things around the house that could be used to give myself a spanking and i had to send him a picture so he could decide what one would be used. I went around the house as quickly as possible and found a spatula, a chuck it (a plastic thing used to throw tennis balls for our dog), and a belt. He told me to use the spatula but only after I had got back into the tub and took time to think about what I had done and finished washing, after I was done I was to spank each cheek 15 times and send him a picture so he could decide if my punishment was thorough enough. He added at the end of his text that I better do it correctly or else. I was also not allowed to dry off my backside so that this punishment would sting even worse.
I finally pulled myself out of the tub, by this time the water was cold. I went into the living room and layed down on my stomach grabbing the spatula in my right hand I did as he asked. to my surprise the spanking stung much worse than expected so when my 15 swats per cheek were done I was happy. I took a picture and deep down I knew i hadn't spanked myself hard enough to get the effect he desired but I send him the pic anyways... bad idea... he was very disappointing in me and told me to do it again and to do it right. This time I swatted harder and each cheek got 30 swats instead of 15. I resent him a picture and not very surprising to me i still hadn't done the job he expected. He let me know he was disappointing in me and I would be receiving a worse discipline. I begged him not to give me a worse discipline and if given another chance I would give myself a proper spanking. Before he could text me back I started spanking myself again this time much harder with 50 swats each cheek and in my head all I was thinking about was how much harder these swats would be if he was administering them. By this time my bottom was completely red.. I went back to my phone and found he had told me it was obvious I was unable to fulfill this punishment and would have a different one instead. I sent him the new pic of my bottom in desperation hoping he would change his mind but he didn't. He was happy I had finally given myself the proper discipline but he couldn't let me get away with this behavior. I hated that I had dissapointed him in the first place, that was almost a punishment in itself.
Second part of my punishment:
I was required to write lines 100 to be exact and let me tell you 100 lines of "I will not leave the lights on" takes awhile.
I apologized afterwards and he reiterated the reason for his discipline. Everything was over and the air was clear he told me he loved me and i felt even closer to him.
Starting my dd path
My BF and I have had a loving and difficult 3 year relationship. We get into the same arguments over and over and it seems nothing really changes. just recently he has gone away on a business trip and prior to him leaving I had a lot of anxiety. I am constantly doubting his love for me, but he has never given me a reason to. After he had left I texted him asking him where we stood and if I should move home this started a huge discussion that ended up in us being completely honest with each other about things we want and need from this relationship. This is also when I told him my "deepest darkest secret", wanting a dd relationship. I have always felt ashamed for wanting this lifestyle, i felt as if I was some psycho... I didn't want him to think I was a child that wasn't ready for a real relationship. What I want from a dd relationship are clear and constant boundaries, I don't like grey areas, I want to know if a behavior is acceptable or not. I also desire repercussion for my actions. Something I found I have done for years is be "bratty" in the hopes that he would just realize I was "asking" for a good spanking. That never happened. All being bratty got me was a frustrated bf.
Long story short it took him going away on business for me to finally tell him of the role I desperately needed him to fulfill. I needed him to set the rules of our house and insure those rules are followed. I brought this relationship idea up to him March 29, 2012 after we had gotten into a big fight by sending him this link http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2011/09/getting-husband-on-board-with-domestic.html . To my surprise he didn't think I was weird, crazy, or immature he was more angry at me for not telling him a long time ago. Since that night we have become closer than ever which is ironic because he is so far away right now. I have already had 2 distant disciplines and I can tell you with 100% confidence I made the correct decision.
Long story short it took him going away on business for me to finally tell him of the role I desperately needed him to fulfill. I needed him to set the rules of our house and insure those rules are followed. I brought this relationship idea up to him March 29, 2012 after we had gotten into a big fight by sending him this link http://learningdd.blogspot.com/2011/09/getting-husband-on-board-with-domestic.html . To my surprise he didn't think I was weird, crazy, or immature he was more angry at me for not telling him a long time ago. Since that night we have become closer than ever which is ironic because he is so far away right now. I have already had 2 distant disciplines and I can tell you with 100% confidence I made the correct decision.
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